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Whatever It Takes

Whatever It Takes – words that can either haunt me or inspire me depending on where my emotions are when the words come to mind. It is a commitment I made to God exactly thirty days before my husband was killed. I was at a Leadership conference for church & business leaders when they brought out a clay pottery vessel. The vessel represented us, as God made us, but was then shattered into pieces representing the brokenness we experience in this world. We were each handed a broken piece and encouraged to write whatever was on our hearts. I vividly remember the fullness in my Spirit that day, as I wrote…Whatever It Takes.

Scripture warns us, there will be a cost to follow Christ.

Then he said to them all: “If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will save it.       

Luke 9:23

In fact, everyone who wants to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecute.      

2 Timothy 3:12


As a widow, I am more aware of the cost. I am more aware of the pain, God endured by sacrificing His Son on the Cross.

I am more aware, I have to deny myself in order to follow him. I have to deny my frequent desire to surrender to my emotions, in order walk by faith and honor our God.

I am more aware of the persecution of our faith; more sensitive to the constant push in our daily lives – to rely on ourselves, to blame God, to become our own god.

I am more aware, I need to be obedient in the little things, so I can be trusted with the bigger things.

And just like my sweet Sister- in- Christ, Lori Streller shared in her article “Choosing to Remain Single” (click here for link) I am at that point where, “What I WANT…is to be so aligned with God’s will for my life that I am able to accept His plans for my future, whether they are what I currently desire or not.”

Those three simple words – Whatever  It Takesare now woven into the very core of my being. God has brought me to a place where I know and love Him in a way that has brought about a whole new level of surrender. It has been at great cost, but it has also brought tremendous gain. Today there is less of me, more of Him.

There are times when I slip back into my old way of thinking, but He always brings me back to my purpose, to glorify Him.

Ladies, He is faithful, He will supply all of our needs. My prayer for each of us, is the same as the one Paul prayed for us long ago:

Philippians 1: 9 -11

And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless until the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ-to the glory and praise of God. Amen.


2 replies
  1. Hattie Jones
    Hattie Jones says:

    Thanks so much for this, my husband died in 2012, my son went to prison in 2013, my sister died in 2014 and my other son moved away so this has been a new adventure for me, why I say adventure because I finally believe God is my all in all. I have been a Christian for 46 years but this last 2 and a half years have brought me to my knees and surrendered totally to what God has for me. My 4 words I live by now, NO MORE WASTED TIME. God is moving in my life and I am excited, thank you so much for this blog.

    • Sheryl Pepple
      Sheryl Pepple says:

      Hattie, thank you so much for your response. What an encoragement to hear how your faith is sustaining you and how focused you are! God can do so much when we are willing! God Bless! Sheryl @AWM

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