liz anne nay wright kit hinkle a widows might god in my grief my widowhood journey looking for gods timing in life

His Perfect Timing

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. – John 3:16 NIV

My sweet then-two-year old looked up at my wedding picture above my bed.

“I think you should get married again, Mom.”

“Oh? Why is that, buddy?”

“Then I could have another dad!”

Yep, the question I knew I would have to face. It’s a doozie!

My answer?

“Well, buddy, you know God’s got it, and if we need to have another man in our lives, He will provide him. Otherwise, we will be fine the way we are.”

“OK, Mom.”

Whew! Crisis averted, at least for the time being.

My sweet youngest seemed to think I could just go to the local market and pick out a new husband and father. The process, and all the decisions surrounding it, is infinitely more complicated than his brain could handle. Some days, it’s more than I can handle.

It’s all a matter of timing, isn’t it?

But I believed what I said to my sweet little boy about God’s answer, and I still continue to believe it.

After all, He is in the perfect timing business.

And no timing was more perfect than when He sent His Son.

I cannot imagine what the intervening years between the Old and New Testament—what it would have been like to not hear from God for four hundred years!

And then an angel comes to Zechariah, foretelling the birth of John, the beginning of the salvation promised long ago. Zechariah’s response?

Zechariah asked the angel, “How can I be sure of this? I am an old man and my wife is well along in years.” (Luke 1:18 NIV)

I would have been right there with Zechariah, I think. God had not spoken in so long and now He sends an angel to say an old man and an old woman would have a baby? Pretty amazing stuff.

But that was just the beginning. God did have it under control, and the Plan was perfect.

Sisters, I do not compare my nearly seven years of singleness since losing Keith with the birth of our Lord, but I do sometimes feel like I am waiting for an answer for four hundred! Not a yes, not a no, just an answer! Truly, I am not even sure if I want to marry again…and I still firmly believe God will bring us what we need, when we need it.

Just like He did with a baby to an old couple…and a baby in a manger.

He keeps His promises. Always.

I pray that we can all remember that as we wait for His perfect timing.

Dear Father, sometimes I don’t understand why things have happened the way they have. Sometimes I am lonely. But, regardless of how I feel, I know You are God and You have me in the palm of Your hand. I will trust in You to complete Your plan in me, just as You have for all eternity. Thank You for holding ALL of us in the palm of Your hand! In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

8 replies
  1. Hattie Jones
    Hattie Jones says:

    Thanks so much for all your comments. I lost my husband in 2012, it has been very hard for me, my church family has helped me keep my eyes on Jesus. Now my younger son has been sentenced to prison for 10 years, since this happened I have had so much depression and now I am retiring on Oct.9th, what is in store now, please pray for me I know God loves.

    • Liz Anne Wright
      Liz Anne Wright says:

      OH, Hattie! So much to deal with! My prayers are with you! So blessed to hear you have been leaning on the Lord. Praying that you continue to find strength in His name!

  2. JoAnn Racz
    JoAnn Racz says:

    It has been nine years for me and has just become tolerable. Yes, it is lonely, difficult, but as I have made this journey, have learned so much about me, I am strong, learning to be happy and appreciate family which makes life worthwhile. I have struggled with God’s plan for me, but I don’t give up. I pray for strength daily. I want my old life back, but I cherish this new one!!!

    • Liz Anne Wright
      Liz Anne Wright says:

      Thanks for your lovely words, JoAnn! Praising God that you are continuing to journey on where God wants you, and leaning on Him in the process!

  3. Angela
    Angela says:

    Good Morning Liz Anne!! Wow your post really has perfect timing for me. I am struggling with this right now. I haven’t quite determined if a gentleman that I have become good friends with in the past year and someone God has put in my path for friendship or more. It’s been a little complicated since he just came out of a bad marriage situation. He is a great man and loves God but I am just not sure, so maybe that’s my answer!!! If it’s from God I should be sure!!! It’s tough!! I’ve been a widow for a little over three years with a 13 year old daugther and it’s tough to know. In God’s timing!!! Your post hit home big time for me today!!!

    • Liz Anne Wright
      Liz Anne Wright says:

      Praise God that He used me to speak to you! How cool is that? I will be praying for you in your decisions, Angela! Blessings!

  4. Elizabeth
    Elizabeth says:

    Thanks, Liz, for this. It is probably one if the hardest things in walking with Jesus. His timing vs our timing.

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