A Common Bond

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.2 Corinthians 1:3-4

I had a conversation with a young Marine at our church a few Sundays ago. We were discussing his recent deployment to an African country that was fraught with unrest. One of his comments really struck me.

“When you go through tragedy together, you are bonded quickly and permanently.”

How that resonated with me and my widow walk!

There is a closeness in mutual pain, the pain reflected in another’s eyes, that cannot be duplicated in the easy paths of God.

I was reminded of that conversation twice this week.

This past Wednesday at church, I met a widower who was nearing the dreaded first “anniversary” date.

“Does it get easier?”

“Yes. Eventually. But it is a long and complicated process. God is there. Remember that. And I am, too.”

Yesterday, I brought a meal to a friend whose husband is waiting to hear if he will be accepted into a clinical trial for his type of cancer, his only earthly hope for healing.

“I know you have walked this walk.”

“Yes. And God has walked it with me. Hold onto Him.”

Mutuality. We have been in the same sorts of trenches. We can often lift a hand to another struggling down there. And that feels good, even in the midst of the pain of revisiting.

Have you had the opportunity to share with someone facing the struggle of knowing the life they know has a very real possibility of being ripped away from them?

Have you had the opportunity to talk to another widow? To look in her eyes and see reflected there the pain…but also the glory of a God who is there? To help give her strength for the next baby step toward healing?

Sisters, it is not easy to walk this path. We all know that. But…through our struggles, we have an opportunity to go deeper, to get past polite conversation and talk about what really matters in life, to help others when they need it most…perhaps even to help them find the Savior.

And…in that…we can find a great gift.  Hallelujah!

Father, I thank You for putting us in community. We NEED others when we walk difficult paths. Help us to seek those who have been there before us when we need them, and help us to find those who need to know where we have been. Through our closeness with sisters here, help us to see You more clearly as we travel the path of this widow walk. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.