Have you ever had an unplugged moment when you saw the world for what it was—its beauty and its downfall?
Another child surprised Brian. “Mom,” Brian said. “When I went to take the boy’s shoes off, I grabbed the bottoms of his shoes but felt socks instead. His shoes had no heels. It was just the top of the shoes and the front– there was nothing but socks his heels were walking on. The little boy was so happy to get a pair of shoes.”
A teen from the church in the town we partnered with joined us in the foot washing. She sat next to my 15-year-old washing feet and praying with people to receive Christ. During a break she shrugged and explained to him what it was like growing up there. “It’s really hard to be a Christian here in the school. So many kids are having sex and doing drugs. It’s not like they even think its wrong because most of their parents are doing it too. It’s hard to not do what everyone else is doing. My brother went to a party and got stabbed and was left to die in a field. A helicopter picked him up and took him to a hospital. That was a while back. I don’t know where he is now. I just know he’s brain damaged now. I’ve lived in too many foster homes to count. I’m a lucky one. I’m in church. No one around here goes to church. They’re all hooked on meth by the time they’re my age and you’re lucky just to finish high school.” Of course as outsiders, we don’t know how much of a teen’s story falls to elaboration, but what we saw was the core reason for the poverty.
Our pastor’s wife chatted with a little boy while painting his face. He and his two sisters and a brother came with a foster parent. “Baby,” she said, “where’s your mama?” The boy said as casually as though she was just at the grocery store… “Oh, Mama, she’s in jail.” His face brightened. “But she’ll be home in about 8 years.”
A woman who so obviously loves the Lord told us she’s a great grandmother (no older than me) who has already raised 18 children. She explained why her five-year-old granddaughter is such a handful. “She was abused in the worst way by a foster dad when she was three. I was so busy raising my other great grandchildren I didn’t even know she had been taken away from her mom and dad until a few weeks passed. I got her out of there as soon as I knew she was in the foster care. I knew right away something was wrong with her because she wouldn’t talk. It was a year later when another family accused the man of abuse.”
Our team drove through the town to pray for it. So many trailer parks, many run down with police ribbons around them because of a drug bust. Methamphetamines run rampant.
The town also has 50 churches– all close to empty except for the older traditionalists. Anyone thinking they need to go across the world to deal with poverty need to open their eyes. It’s a simple car ride to the next state.
Please don’t read this and think the weekend was depressing. We expected the poverty, so we didn’t let it get us down. It’s what God’s doing through the beautiful hearts of a tiny church in that coal mining town and what we were allowed to experience with them that’s uplifting. Here are some incredible moments for me…
A teen girl put her feet in the sudsy water and sulked. I wondered if her makeup and clothing was just the style or a sign that she had already headed into a hard life full of the pain of consequences of poor choices. She was friendly enough and wanted the bracelet I offered. She said she’d never been to church but she’d heard of Jesus– didn’t seem interested. I walked her through the black color on the band. She nodded when I spoke of sin, and did a kind of eye roll when I moved on to the red part of the band– blood. I first described the blood as punishment for sin and her eyes glazed over. No one likes hearing that sins have to be paid for. Then I explained how when I was her age I went to a church that made me feel like I had to live perfectly to get to Heaven and that if I had any sin on me I had to pay for it somehow– either Hell or something I do here to make up for it. Her eyes still glazed over.
“But that was wrong,” I said. I bent down to wash her feet while I kept talking. “Jesus took your punishment for you. He died on the cross so that you don’t have to and all you have to do is accept that He died for you and that you’re forgiven and it’s done. You don’t have to do anything else. You don’t have to work your way into Heaven.” I kept washing and then I heard….
“Really? That’s it?” she said. Startled, I looked up at the teen’s face. She had a surprised look in her eyes and a tear on her cheek. “Is that really true?” she asked. To see the earnest relief in her eyes choked me up. I didn’t want to embarrass the girl so I didn’t pry. It seemed obvious her tears were for something she felt ashamed of and that she liked hearing that it’s easy to be forgiven.
We take for granted that people have already learned about the gospel. So few know it and so many want and need it. She prayed with me to invite Christ in her life and I told her that many people will try to tell her that there are other things she needs to do to get to Heaven but if she’s sincere about accepting God’s grace’s she’s already forgiven. I told her it’s true even if her life takes a rough direction and she makes bad choices. God still loves her, no matter what. She got up and hugged me.
My thirteen year old was washing the feet of a teen that was obviously too old to be a teen- like about 21 or so. Brian is a quiet kind of guy—small for his age so that he looks even younger, like 11 or so. But there he was washing this twenty-something’s feet while talking to the guy about Christ. What a moment to see your child doing that!
Once he was done putting new shoes on the guy he asked, “What can I pray with you about?” The young man, goatee on his chin and earring in his brow, gave Brian a list, “well little guy, ya see that girl over there– she and I have been dating about 3 years now. And we’re thinking on moving in together.” My eyes got big as this guy went on and on with my little boy who never meets people whose problems are bigger than can their parents afford to get them a cell phone. I’m thinking I’d have to rescue Brian and step in to pray in his place.
Brian didn’t need that, and he didn’t skip a beat. He grabbed both the guy’s hands and shut his eyes, praying as boldly and articulately as though this guy’s circumstance was normal and simple. “Dear God, please help this guy and his girlfriend set up a happy home and get married, and help them with their choices and protect them.” He amazed me. It’s so easy to underestimate what God can do with even the smallest of hearts.
And that’s simply who we are. Serving in such a concentrated way doesn’t increase you, it makes you smaller, as you should be. When we returned home and found ourselves in that moment, unplugged from our routine and from the comatose nature of centering our hearts on the problems of the day, we see the reality. That when we finally allow ourselves to become lesser, God becomes bigger in us and we can finally be used. Like little Brian being used to pray with someone twice his size and pulling it off in a huge way.
Mom is the bomb.
She is awesome.
She’s like the possum.
She really rocks.
Cause she’s a fox.
Years ago when my youngest was asked to write a poem about Mom around Mothers Day, he came up with the funniest poem and presented it in front of the whole class and all the moms at a Mother’s Day party. It was so funny that my boys have repeated it to me over the years.
It was even so catchy that sometimes they thank God in a prayer using the funny poem. You know, “Thank you, God, for Mom. She’s the bomb….”
Okay, so he’s not ready for the beatnik scene, and maybe I’m a bit biased, but I like it!