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Why Did This Happen, God?

“I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:12-13 (NIV)

“Content” ?
In any and every situation?

“Really, Lord”?
How can this be!

A few months ago, God’s timing was to take my husband “home” to heaven to be with Him. We were “aging” and had issues we dealt with on a daily basis, but had not given consideration that any of them were at a point of taking us “home”! So needless to say, my husband’s unexpected “journey” to his heavenly home was a total surprise to me.

Oh, what a tough time! I was sure God did not really understand what He was doing. I was sure it was not my husband’s time to go “home”. In a matter of seconds, all of my hopes and dreams were gone! I could not understand how God thought I was going to be able to continue living! So many questions entered in my mind. Why did this happen? Why would God take my husband, now….

Have you ever been there?  Have you ever had a situation in your life where you just couldn’t process why God would allow something like this to happen!

As I have had time to work at making changes in my life and think about many things, I realize asking “why” is perfectly normal and isn’t unspiritual.

In other words: “Now that this is my reality, what am I supposed to do with it?”

What can I learn from this?

What part of this is for my protection?

What other opportunities could God be providing for me?

What maturity could God be building into me?

If you will humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, in his good time he will lift you up. Let him have
all your worries and cares, for he is always thinking about you and watching everything that concerns you.
I Peter 5: 6-7

Sisters, I must admit to you, this journey of “widowhood” has not been an easy one for me. My life changed completely in a matter of a few seconds. In just a couple of weeks after losing my husband, I disposed of most of our personal possessions, left my friends, my church, and moved to another state to be with family.

Was it easy?  No!  But, it was a way for me to find a perspective beyond situations where I felt God had allowed something in my life I didn’t understand.

I will be the first to tell you how much I still miss my husband of 48 years, but I will also tell you that time has allowed many changes in my life too! I am so thankful for my family and dear friends who walk with me, but most of all for my God who is there for every step I take! He has certainly given me an increased desire to draw closer to Him  than I ever did before!

God is there for you too …. just trust Him and ask Him to walk with you, too!

Lord, help me to process everything I face in life through the filter of Your love.  Sometimes it’s hard to understand the circumstances that come my way. I find myself consumed with trying to figure things out rather than looking for Your perspective and trusting You.  Please help me to trust you, completely – thank you!

4 replies
  1. Susan Wooster
    Susan Wooster says:

    Karen – this article certainly struck a chord in me, and I can relate to it very closely. Thank you for your wisdom and insightful comments. This article gives me hope and encouragement.

    • Karen Emberlin
      Karen Emberlin says:

      Susan, I will be praying God will continue to guide and lead you on this “journey” of widowhood! Some days are really hard to understand, but I know He will take care of you!! Blessings, my Friend!
      ~ Karen E.

  2. FlowerLady Lorraine
    FlowerLady Lorraine says:

    Beautifully written Karen, uplifting and encouraging.

    God is speaking to me about being content as I’ve read 3-4 different writings about this subject in a couple of days. I not only lost my husband 30 months ago, but just lost my job of 17 years due to boss retiring, two months ago.

    Your post today was another confirmation to keep trusting in Jesus as He works all things out in my life.

    Thank you and God’s continued blessings on you ~ FlowerLady

    • Karen Emberlin
      Karen Emberlin says:

      Yes, Lorraine, I know some days it is hard to “trust” the Lord and to “wait” for more answers! Keeping you in my prayers – I know He will continue to bless you as you seek His will for your life. Much Love,
      Karen Emberlin

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