This would be my comfort; I would even exult in pain unsparing, for I have not denied the words of the Holy One.
Job 6:10 (ESV)
How does he do it? The enemy, I mean.
How does satan take a beautiful heart and twist it into his shape, convincing her to reject God and His promises?
He gives her a “fur-lined pity-pot”–that’s how. God-knows where that little phrase came from, but I’ve heard it kicked around in recovery circles. It’s that cozy spot where she curls up like a cat and licks her wounds.
He tells her it’s the safest spot to park herself.
But it’s not!
How many of us have spent at least a season of our time as widows spinning over our painful circumstances, wanting a better life for ourselves, but stuck in a pit of despondency.
There’s a better way. Kick the devil in the rear by rejecting self-pity.
Oh, the joy you will feel when you reject satan.
The impact you will make! The reward – the everlasting reward to be secure in your place with God and in Heaven!
And while we know there are rewards in stopping the self-pity, we can’t just rid ourselves from it without replacing it with a new mindset.
Try this one: Remember this world–this life–these struggles that seem unending–are but a blink of an eye compared to eternity.
And what feels like a curse to have to suffer in this life has its rewards. Because with discomfort, you are never lulled into leaning on the luxuries of this world for security. Rather, you look to the eternal security of your precious loving Abba Father to walk you through every dark valley.
Job in the Old Testament saw this Truth, even in his misery. After losing ten children, all his material possessions, and the support of his wife and friends, he sat alone, covered in painful boils. And in his misery he did something remarkable. He praised God. Just listen to his words: “This would be my comfort; I would even exult in pain unsparing, for I have not denied the words of the Holy One.” (Job 6:10 ESV).
Job had it right. Sitting idle for too long doesn’t get you any further out of your misery. Do something. If you can’t seem to do anything, start like Job did by praising God.
And if you can’t seem to use words to praise God, try action.
Think of it this way: You are miserable anyway. Might as well get something done while you’re at it! Take action! Here’s why:
- Actions before feelings – Our culture screams for you to give in to feelings. Don’t! Move your body and use your mind as if you were hopeful and joyful, and your heart will resonate with those actions and feel joy again!
- It honors your Maker – It screams to the enemy, I will not let my loss render me useless, and draws you closer to God and His purpose!
- Results – You grieve whether you remain idle or start cleaning, but a week later, your house is uncluttered. Accomplishing a task puts a lift in your step.
Give my sister that small nudge to step out of her fur-lined pity-party. Help her at least get up and begin tidying the world around her as a way of acknowledging You are there and she loves You and knows You love her. Embrace her as she takes small steps and please grow that security in her heart. Thank You, Jesus.
Kit Hinkle is an author and speaker. She was an original writer of A Widow’s Might in 2008, and after four years with that ministry, expanded it and founded A New Season Ministries, Inc. Once the ministry became established, she turned the leadership over, yet continues to contribute articles while she focuses on her finest career as a home school mother to four teen boys–one of them launched in college. She has lived through corporate careers as a chemical engineer and a management consultant, but now enjoys walks on the beach with her chocolate lab. She loves to sit with another who is walking through her tough road and show that woman Christ. It’s an honor to participate in His kingdom.
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