Hello, my name is…

Hello, my name is your name and I am a ___________. How would you fill in the second blank?

Widow, single, mother, grandmother, housewife, stay at home mom, employee, etc.?

Oh how I hate labels. They can be so limiting! It doesn’t matter if they are something that we perceive as good like being a wife, mother, grandmother, or if it is something that we see as a negative like being a diabetic, a senior citizen, or a widow. All of them can limit our thinking. The label or role becomes a self-defining box and everything we say or do and even feel, gets stuck in that box.

And then we draw another box, a slightly larger box and we put God in it. We have to – because if we are limited – then by default He is limited. In essence, we have decided there is only so much He can do with us. We just put the Great I AM, the Alpha and Omega, the Lord Almighty in a box. Sounds crazy when we look at it that way doesn’t it?

When we first lose our husbands, it feels like our whole world has disappeared. The pain is unbearable and we can barely breathe. When the shock begins to wear off, we look around and we feel utterly exposed. We no longer know who we are or what our future holds. Becoming a widow is the most disorienting experience we will probably ever encounter.

But eventually it can also bring clarity. The purpose of our life wasn’t just to be a wife, even as wonderful as that might be. Being a wife is a role we fulfill, but it isn’t our purpose. Our purpose is to glorify God and that happens in many different roles throughout our life: single, married, widowed, with children, without children, etc. As we begin to remember (or perhaps understand for the first time) our purpose is bigger than in any one role we fulfill, we begin to dismantle the box we’ve been living in and along with it, the box we put God in.

As our thinking shifts from the temporary roles we assume on this Earth to our eternal purpose we find ourselves planted on solid ground which can never be shaken or turned upside down. It redefines who we are in the most powerful way possible. With my eyes on my eternal purpose it is easier to see the many roles I fulfill as spelled out in scripture.

Hello, my name is your name and I am…

An heir of God                Galatians 4:7

A child of God                 John 1:12

A friend of God               John 15:15

God’s masterpiece         Ephesians 2:10

God’s dwelling place     Ephesians 2:22

Will you join me today in mediating on our eternal roles so we can be utilized to our full capacity for God’s glory?

Dear Heavenly Father, Thank you for making us in Your image,  for Your purposes. Help us to see ourselves and each other through Your eyes. As we meditate on Your word today, please allow Your truth to pierce our hearts, eradicate the self defined boxes we have put on ourselves and You, and let us walk forward in freedom to live to our full capacity for Your Glory! We love You so! In Your Sons name. Amen.


SherylPeppletbSheryl Pepple is an author and speaker for aNew Season/A Widow’s Might Ministries. She lives in Texas with her yellow lab, Super Duper Cooper, and spends time with her two daughters, her son-in-law, and her grandson. She is a seasoned traveler and loves to visit great snorkeling and diving areas. Her husband was killed by a drunk driver in September 2011 and she lost her brother, the victim of an unsolved murder, years ago. Sheryl feels blessed to be able to share how evident God’s grace and faithfulness is in her life.

If you are interested in having her speak, please contact her via email at: admin@anewseason.net.

Want to read another great article by Sheryl?   The Curtain is Torn

Want to read another article about your identity? Widow Card by Kit Hinkle


6 replies
  1. Melanie
    Melanie says:

    So perfectly written. I feel like these words are mine exactly. My husband died in August and I say died, not without care but with much strength now. It’s taken many tears and prayers to get where I am. To me, thinking of death as a passing, I always pictured someone terminal or older in age. When it happened to me, to my husband…it was sudden. His death was instant and not expected. I lost him to a heart attack at the age of 33. I am now a 28 year old widow, words I never dreamed of saying.
    Together we have two daughters, 8 and 5. I had always defined myself as a wife and mother. And since he’s been gone I’ve had to start over, figuring out who I am. What I’m finding out is not just who I am as a person but more importantly who I am in Christ. And I am thankful to have came across this page early on in my journey, for it has helped me so very much!

    • Sheryl Pepple
      Sheryl Pepple says:

      Hi Melanie, I am so very sorry for your loss! My husband was killed by a drunk driver so I also know what it is like to lose them unexpectaedly. Grief is a long process but I am so glad to hear that you are pressing into Christ and that this ministry is helping. We are here to walk alongside you so please let us know how you are doing. Lifting you up in prayer!

  2. Donna
    Donna says:

    This is beautiful! Thank you for your thoughts which have clarified in my own mind ‘labels’ that a widow (this widow) have struggled with. Never would have thought it to be SO DIFFICULT to ‘find my way’ after I was no longer Rogers wife. “Disoriented” is a perfect way to put it. As times passes, I’m searching for ‘my’ place and I LOVE the places you bring us in your article. Gods dwelling place jumped out at me! Psalms 91 was the portion God gave me as we walked through our 18-month cancer battle. “God in us” ….a comforting place to start! A place to bring glory to Him! Thank you for the truth of your thoughts. Blessings to you & all who read aNS.

  3. Danyell Shaw
    Danyell Shaw says:

    This post was for me today. I really needed this! I must say I thank God for this Blog, it helps me so much! Be blessed ladies!

    • Sheryl Pepple
      Sheryl Pepple says:

      It is such a joy to see how God blesses each of us by encouraging one another! God Bless Danyell! Sheryl

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