Because I Said So!

“Because I said so!” 

It’s the line every kid swears they will NEVER grow up to use. Because, if you do…’s the day you “become” your mother.

The one line every child HATES to hear!

It offers no real explanation or hope of a negotiable outcome. Because I said so has a HUGE, FAT period or exclamation point at the end.



No more conversation

Do you ever feel like this is what God said when you questioned why your love had to leave this place? Because He said so. No more conversation, His will is higher, His ways are better. Done. Finito!

It’s hard when we want to ask a million questions, and yet there are no answers we would be willing to accept. When we have tons of suggestions but the Father does not need a one of them. When all we really want, some days, is to go back in time-before it all unraveled. Before the sickness, the hospitals and ambulances, before the horror and tragedy, before we had to say it out loud to our children, families, friends, churches…..he’s gone. Before the visitations, and funerals, before the closets had to be cleaned out and belongings given away, before the houses and cars had to be sold, before the sleepless nights, the deafening silence and excruciating loneliness.

BEFORE seems like so long ago and yet it was just there yesterday.

The problem with always thinking of BEFORE is that it makes us miss the now and after.

After we found out we are stronger than we knew, after we realized we can do things we’ve never done before, after we found new friends and new interests, after we learned the depth and breadth of our Father’s love for us, after we let the petty of life go and better understood the importance of our legacies– after can be an incredibly powerful place, once we find our way there.

Why do mothers use, “Because I said so”? Because they KNOW it keeps children obedient even when it’s hard. It keeps kids safe when they don’t see danger. It comes from wisdom a child does not have. It come from experience and years of living. God had been doing this eternity thing for a lot longer than we have, maybe He does know better, maybe He is seeing things we do not, maybe He does want the best for us.

Dare to believe His promises are true…

But He said, “The things that are impossible with people are possible with God.” Luke 18:27 NASB

And my God will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19 NASB

But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him. James 1:5 NASB

and He will wipe away every tear from their eyes; and there will no longer be any death; there will no longer be any mourning, or crying, or pain; the first things have passed away.” Revelation 21:4 NASB

because He says so

God, love us so deeply all we see is You through our tears and our laughter. In Jesus name, Amen.



Dr. Teri Cox is an international education consultant, speaker and author. Teri is the Production Director for A Widow’s Might. She joined the team in October of 2012 after losing her best friend, Daryl, in March of 2012. She looks forward to a life of music, missions, and ministry with God in control. Teri counts it an honor and a privilege to be allowed to share the Gospel message through word and song. Her desire is to make God’s name more famous and allow His mosaic of her life to become a more beautiful picture than she could ever have imagined.

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1 reply
  1. Gigi DuPont
    Gigi DuPont says:

    Dear Teri,
    You teach with my sister, Colleen Pritz. We have discussed your loss of your husband on a few occasions. I have struggled dealing with my loss in life also. I enjoyed reading your blog, so thank you for sharing your thoughts with all of us. I find it difficult to even get out of bed some mornings. I not only lost my husband, my best friend, my lover, my soul mate to the temptation of the flesh and he was taken from me to serve a prison sentence (it’s been 8 years), but I also had the opportunity to experience a mom’s worst nightmare and buried my oldest son, Aaron Michael, this past December to a drug overdose. My middle son, Andrew, turned to drugs prior to him and I hear VERY little from him, not even when his brother died. I have my daughter, Abbey, left of my “once beautiful family”. It is hard to not look “back” and dream of what was before all of this. Sometimes that holds me down and I am finding it difficult to move forward. I miss my family that I dreamt of having since I was a little girl. I was living the “fairytale”! God removed all of them from my life, but did bless me recently with a beautiful granddaughter, Raegan. in May of this year.
    Life is surely hard here! It sure shakes you in your shoes. I am sorry for your loss of your husband, your best friend, your lover, your soul mate also. I am grateful you were there for him when he died. I hope for great things for you in the future. You have a beautiful soul. I felt it as I ready your post. I ask that God will watch over you and bless you with all of the things you stand in need of. Amen.

    Gigi DuPont

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