I should rename this post. I wanted to get your attention so I called it “Five Crazy Things I’ve Heard on a Date”. But really, I should call it “How to Get Over Yourself and Have Grace with that Poor Fellow Who is Just Trying to Meet a Nice Gal”.
But I won’t disappoint you. Here are some of the things that gave me a laugh:
- “You look amazingly like my roommate!”
- “Uh, yeah, why do I keep looking out the window of the restaurant? Oh. It’s because I have my fifteen-year-old son waiting in the car for me.”
- “Sex before marriage isn’t adultery. I’m a minister. I know these things.”
- “The entire Gospel is written up in the stars. The Bible says so.”
- “I had prostate surgery and I was so relieved when I noticed things still worked on my first day of recovery!”
It isn’t because of these statements that I took a one year hiatus from dating. I can honestly say that many of the men whom I quoted above could have made good husbands.
Many were nervous. Many were just being transparent and putting their dirty laundry on the table right away.
I took a hiatus over a year ago because God hadn’t shown me the right man for me yet. My boys were at a place in their education where they needed an extra bump—a little extra attention from mom.
So I took a break. I wanted to know that when I stepped back into dating, I would be ready to devote intentional time and energy into learning about someone God might have for me.
I know when I met my husband, he said goofy things too. But his heart was pure, and I could slow down enough to see it, engage with it, and fall in love with him.
For those of you single women beginning or continuing into the dating scene, have fun with some of the quotes I made, and maybe share your own. But remember that you too have probably made some faux pau’s and looked a little strange in front of a date. The book of Colossians tells us to be careful with your words. Always have grace.
“Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.” (Colossians 4:6 ).
Always remember that each candidate is special to God. He will eventually find the right match for him and for you.