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Five Crazy Things I’ve Heard on a Date

I should rename this post.  I wanted to get your attention so I called it “Five Crazy Things I’ve Heard on a Date”.  But really, I should call it “How to Get Over Yourself and Have Grace with that Poor Fellow Who is Just Trying to Meet a Nice Gal”.

But I won’t disappoint you.  Here are some of the things that gave me a laugh:

  1. “You look amazingly like my roommate!”
  2. “Uh, yeah, why do I keep looking out the window of the restaurant? Oh. It’s  because I have my fifteen-year-old son waiting in the car for me.”
  3. “Sex before marriage isn’t adultery. I’m a minister. I know these things.”
  4. “The entire Gospel is written up in the stars.  The Bible says so.”
  5. “I had prostate surgery and I was so relieved when I noticed things still worked on my first day of recovery!”

It isn’t because of these statements that I took a one year hiatus from dating.  I can honestly say that many of the men whom I quoted above could have made good husbands.

Many were nervous.  Many were just being transparent and putting their dirty laundry on the table right away.

I took a hiatus over a year ago because God hadn’t shown me the right man for me yet. My boys were at a place in their education where they needed an extra bump—a little extra attention from mom.

So I took a break.  I wanted to know that when I stepped back into dating, I would be ready to devote intentional time and energy into learning about someone God might have for me.

I know when I met my husband, he said goofy things too.  But his heart was pure, and I could slow down enough to see it, engage with it, and fall in love with him.

For those of you single women beginning or continuing into the dating scene, have fun with some of the quotes I made, and maybe share your own.  But remember that you too have probably made some faux pau’s and looked a little strange in front of a date. The book of Colossians tells us to be careful with your words. Always have grace.

“Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.” (Colossians 4:6 ).

Always remember that each candidate is special to God.  He will eventually find the right match for him and for you.

5 replies
  1. Liz Anne Wright
    Liz Anne Wright says:

    I totally agree with you as well, widowed mom. While I miss my late husband tons, I have not desire at this point in my life to fill it with anyone but God. I am fine where I am. I have not looked. I don’t plan to look. I prayed for my first husband for 5 years before the Lord saw fit to bring us together. If He desires the same for me again, He will bring it to pass. If not, I have the best Bridegroom in the universe, and that is enough for me. I actually have a post coming out next month on our A Widow’s Might blog about this very subject. Watch for it in November!

  2. A widowed mom
    A widowed mom says:

    I think saying with certainty, “he will eventually find the right match for him and you” isn’t necessarily helpful. I think just like accepting it is part of God’s plan that we could not continue our marriage with the husband we lost, we have to accept that remarriage may not be in God’s plan. We have to be able to say this “thorn in our flesh” may not be removed, and that is okay, and praise God regardless. He doesn’t always give us what we want, but he will give us what we need. I am not saying this is what you were saying at all, and I am so blessed by your writings; but I think too many people think remarriage is the key to happiness again, and then if God doesn’t provide it, it is a huge stumbling block. I know lovely, wonderful, Christ-filled people who have desired a first marriage and children – yet are in their 50s, 60s, even 80s – and it is a prayer not yet answered in the way they were asking. It can be the desire of your heart, and God not provide the way you want. Who of us didn’t desire for our husbands to grow old with us and parent with us? We may desire new husbands, new relationships, but many will not find. I pray for us all to handle this as we are called, and to be thankful for whatever God’s answer is. Thank you for all of your time in this ministry and how you encourage so many!!

    • Kit Hinkle
      Kit Hinkle says:

      I totally agree and thank you so much for your perspective, Nicole. Many of our readers on aNew Season are not widowed and so are perhaps approaching the dating world without that feeling of the thorn in their flesh. Widowhood brings about a whole feeling of perhaps the Lord intended just that marriage for you or perhaps more. The point I’m hoping others will see is if and when we are ready to date, it’s important to have the grace to recognize that the silliness you see in a person you meet might well be the quality another will find adorable. Having a possitive attitude and hope that God will find the eventual right match is a great way to have that grace, but perhaps I can reword it to add that word hope more clearly artitculate. Thank you for pointing that out!

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